These days, I mostly live on my own terms. I have a wonderful family, make a good living doing work that I love and have a fantastic work life balance. I’m also involved with many great people and exciting projects to bring positive change to the world. All of this has come about through my intention and focus on creating the life that I want. While I haven’t had a hard life, compared to many people, it certainly didn’t always flow in the same joyful and exciting way that it does now.
I’m not saying that I don’t have rough days, weeks or even months, but the thing is that I’m far more resilient to these kind of events now, as I’m very clear on the long-term effects and benefits of focusing on creating the life that I want (even if I admit that I don’t always walk my talk – and I’m okay with that!)
Like most people, when I (thought I had) finished my education at age 22, I still had no idea about what I was going to do with my life. So I got a job photocopying application forms at a large independent financial advice firm. While it was mind numbingly tedious and I felt real internal conflict about the ethics of the firm and the industry as a whole, I couldn’t think of a better way to make a living at the time – well actually, I thought of loads. I just never made the effort and stepped into the perceived risk of creating my own path. So I just did what I thought was right, with the societal conditioning and beliefs that I had created throughout my life so far. I worked and studied just as hard as I needed to progress in an industry that was completely incongruent with who I am. Fortunately, I had great friends and an amazing romantic partnership (still going strong today) so we partied hard and work simply fuelled that.
Following this, I spent many years working in the corporate world. While appearing successful, this life was extremely unsatisfying and I knew I had to make changes. I thought I was going to escape, when in 2004 I went away travelling and swore I would never go into financial services again. I was convinced I would be struck by inspiration and, although we had an awesome time, managed to keep going for 2 years and I started to expand my mind by learning Reiki, when I came back to England, I was still no clearer on what I wanted to do with my life and ended up, in line with my conditioning and beliefs, back doing a job I excelled at, yet felt deeply unhappy about. Eventually, at another get out opportunity of a redundancy, I almost escaped with the intention of training as an acupuncturist, yet was dragged back in, becoming a director of a company I felt absolutely no connection with for 3 years.
So I kept plodding along in a cycle of uninspiring work and excessive partying until, at the end of 2010, I was told by my (well meaning) GP that I was very unlikely to have children. While this was a terrible shock, I didn’t just accept it and started exploring other options. Following a three month programme of acupuncture and Chinese herbal medicine, my son, Zed was conceived just one month later and is now a happy, healthy three year old. I also used powerful visualisation techniques to bring this about.
Around the same time, I discovered EFT and used it and other techniques to clear all of the blocks to leaving my job and creating what I wanted in life. Now, looking back, I am amazed at how my life has changed and become so much more than I had ever imagined. And this all happened and now continues to happen, due to my learning how to change my beliefs and emotional triggers and consciously create the life that I want.
Now my dream is to guide as many people as I can to stand up for themselves and realise their potential to have an amazing life. I love to support anyone who wants to move beyond the mental slavery of collective and individual limiting beliefs keeping them stuck. I believe that now is the perfect time for this work to make a massive difference in the world and change our reality.